Conscious Discipline- Key Phrases

Problem-solving / connection / safety

• Skill of Empathy

"Your face is going like this. You seem ______. Something happened? You wanted ______. It's hard. Breathe with me. You can handle it."

• Skill of Consequences: imposed

"You have a choice. You can choose to ______ and _______, or you can choose to ______ and ______. I can see by your actions that you have chosen to ________." 

• Skill of Positive intent

"You wanted ____, so you _______. You didn't know what else to do. You may not ______, ______ hurts. When you _______, say '_________." 

• Skill of Encouragement

"You ______, so _______. That was helpful. Good for you! Way to go! You did it!"

• Skill of Assertiveness: Adult

Say the chills name and the action you would like them to do. Describe the action with desired behavior in great detail.  

• Skill of Assertiveness: Child

"Did you like it? Tell your friend, 'I don't like it when you______, Please_______?"

• Skill of Choice

It's time to ______. You may ______ or _______. Which is best for you?

• Skill of Composure

You're safe. Breathe with me. You can handle this. Smile. Take a deep breath. And. Relax. 

• Safe keeper Job

"My job is to keep you safe. Your job is to help keep it safe."

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